Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Comforting A Friend Who Is Dealing With Loss And Grief

By Anne Sanders


While it's true that funeral customs in Singapore are very systematic, it doesn't mean that the families of the deceased can actually handle the loss really well. Death can be traumatic for anyone, regardless of the religion or country they belong to. That's why like in most cultures, people in Singapore who have lost a loved one need to be comforted. The following are some do's and don'ts that you have to remember in helping a friend who is dealing with loss.

The Dos

Read books about grief so that you can widen your understanding about it. Before doing anything, you must understand how your friend suffers. Other emotions associated with grief are anxiety and hostility. If your friend shows these signs, it means that he or she is greatly stricken with grief. This is when you have to show your sympathy and you should let your friend know that you care. Speaking too much is not necessary.

Listen to and share stories about the dead. Make sure that you listen to the family even if they tell same stories over and over again. If it's your turn, share your amusing stories about the deceased. If you are not directly related to each other, you can share a funny story that the deceased's relative shared to you. Happy memories will help reduce the emotional distress from the family.

funeral services in Singapore are often held in funeral homes which typically provide private rooms for friends and family of the deceased. It's also true for the Crematorium Singapore funeral service providers offer. In these rooms, you can find a space where you can let your friend cry out. Always remember that a grieving person will only find a way to move on if he or she can let out all those feelings. When this moment comes, be ready to give a hug.

The Don'ts

Experts say that you must avoid telling clichs such as "it is God's will," "I know how you feel," or "Everything will be healed in time." Do not stop them from crying or saying how they feel. Sometimes, simply lending a shoulder to cry on without saying a word is enough. Don't try too hard to comfort them. After all, actions always speak louder than words.




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