Sunday, September 8, 2013

How To Tell If A Guy Is Attracted To You At The Workplace

By David Nelson


We end up spending most of our time at our workplace. Office romances therefore are on the rise. If you feel that there is a guy who you feel is attracted to you then you need to look out for the signs that help you figure this out. Here are some important signs that suggest your colleague is attracted to you.He acts as a friend.The first thing that a guy does when he is attracted to a woman in the workplace is that he tries to become more than a colleague. If you find your man wanting to be friends by sending you friend requests on social networking sites etc then you should know that this guy is attracted to you.

For example, is she from somewhere else? If the country that she is now working is not her home, then her needs might be loneliness and feeling strange in a foreign land. Satisfy those needs and you will come that much closer to satisfying yours!Or maybe she is not good with computers! Teach her and make her feel at home with computers and she will see you in a different light! Of course you have to have the skills for whatever she needs or else she will know you are a fake!

He will try to meet you after office hours.If a colleague likes you then he will want to meet you outside of work as well. He will try to spend as much time with you so you can count on him to being you lunch hour buddy. He will also ask you out for a drink after work hours casually and take things forward from there.He will always come and talk to you.He might be steeped in work but you will see that this guy will always chat with you even if it is for a little while. If your guy does this then he is definitely attracted to you.He will casually flirt with you.If your colleague is attracted to you he will try to flirt with you casually and will also complement you generously.

One of the things that unites people is the idea of Us vs. Them. If you think about your friends or past lovers you will know this to be true. You will have in jokes where you only need to say a couple of words for the other person to get the joke. You need to develop the same sort of relationship with the woman that you want to ask out. The workplace is rife for opportunities to create in jokes and harmless gossip about some of your other co-workers stranger traits. And try passing notes, it may seem a little childish, but it helps reinforce the idea that you two have secrets.

Workplaces are generally not particularly sexy environments and not the kind of place she will associate in her mind with romance. Before you make a move you need to change up the environment. This is not as hard as it sounds. Next time you are going out with your other co-workers for drinks after work, ask her to join you. Or if you over hear that she is going to be a certain club that weekend you could "accidentally" run into her.

And honestly, most guys do this to their detriment. They forget how similar they are to the women they're talking to in their quest to be machismo or "who they really are". I mean, think about it, how often do you look at a beautiful women and then consider all the reasons she won't like you and why she'd reject you? If you're like most men this is your problem.

Now that you have her alone you can do one of two things. If you feel she is responding well but perhaps not ready to get physical you can suggest something else that you could do together sometime, like going to a photo exhibition or a cool Japanese fusion place you know about. Then ask for her phone number if you don't already have it. However if you have had a few drinks, and the feeling is right, go for the kiss.Of course there is the possibility something will go wrong and she might turn you down. But better to take your chance and fail than to be left wondering what could have been.It seems that just as a man thinks he has attracting a woman all figured out, he realizes he does not know a thing!Rather than trying so hard to figure out women, men would do well to spend some time on themselves. Men would do better focusing on personal habits rather than attracting women; that will work better than simply trying to figure out women.

So, how can you use the law of attraction to attract beautiful women? Well, first, you need to do some internal work and tighten up your internal game. The standard law of attraction is amazing at this part.

More and more, men are finding that attracting women means paying attention to their grooming habits. First impressions are vital to attracting women, so having a neat personal appearance is a must.What can a man do to improve grooming habits in order to attract women?Paying close attention to facial hair is a must. Be sure to ask your barber or hairstylist to trim your eyebrows, nose hair, and ear hair at every hair cut. As for the hair on the head, a man should be certain that he does not go too long between hair cuts if he wants to improve a woman.

In addition to hair, men should also be sure that their nails and hands are free of dirt. Proper skin care can also attract women to a man.Clothing is another area where men struggle. Women are attracted to men who are well put-together and wrinkle free. If a man is unsure what colors match and what styles best suit him, he should go to several different stores and seek the help of a sales consultant.Improving appearance also has a side benefit of improving self esteem. Women will be attracted to men who feel confident in themselves rather than those who are not so sure about themselves or their appearance.The way a man views himself is generally the way a woman will view him as well. If a man does not feel good about the person he is, he should consider therapy so that he can attract a woman who will value him for who he is.

Start working on these asap and do this process until you can see yourself attracting beautiful women everywhere you go. Once you can do this and you've overcome the blocks (not just repress them--that's the exact wrong thing to do: that's what's kept them there!), then you can move into meeting women in real life.

Though, it's not detrimental to talk to women during this process itself because what you're doing is repeatedly training your unconscious mind to react differently to beautiful women so that when you do interact with them, you're able to get the results you want rather than the results your old habits are giving you. In other words, if you're working diligently on this, you should begin to see small results that snowball on themselves until you have what you want.




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