Friday, August 28, 2015

True Love Tests That Some People Just Do Not Understand

By Daphne Bowen


Being in a relationship can be challenging. Many times people do not believe that the person that they are with really want to be with them. So, these individuals put their significant other through all types of true love tests. These tests are often not necessarily but because a person has insecurities they put another person through different types of situations.

However, the games are really not necessary. When two people are grown and should be able to communicate with one another, they should just be able to talk through their problems. The person should be able to say, you are making me feel a certain way in the relationship, and I do not like it.

Are you staying out late? Sneaking in the middle of the night to make phone calls, or are you just too mysterious. When in a relationship you have to take the other persons feelings into consideration at all times. That person should be part of you, and vice verse, there should never be a question about feelings or commitment.

You then have to figure out what you can do to make the person feel more comfortable with you. The person is looking for confirmation that you want them and no one else. So, it will be up to you to figure out what you can do.

During the time that you are sharing quality time if you feel that you are being put through unnecessary love games talk about it. You do not want to have to ultimately end up in counseling. However, if you do feel that you need to go talk to someone there is nothing wrong with it.

You tend to see both people worried about what the other person is doing. Some people just worry unnecessarily and this can put the relationship in limbo. So, what do you do if you are the person being put through these changes?

It is best to take a moment and step back from the relationship. Give the person time to figure out what is going on with themselves. You might even decide to take some time just for you. However, before getting back in the relationship, you want to sit down and have a heart to heart with the person. Let the person know that you are not the one for games, and you want them to be able to trust you.

It might also be necessary to seek professional help for the relationship if no one seems to be listening. Therapists, or counselors are great when it comes to needing someone to hear both sides out. The therapists will not be judgmental and they do not take sides. They just make easy for both parties to be heard without the other interrupting or walking away. Some people like to start with therapists because they know that they will never be able to get through to their significant other on their own.




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