Relationships are difficult under the best of circumstances. But if there has been a serious breach such as an affair, it is even more difficult. The wronged party experiences a vast array of negative emotions, including depression, hurt and anger. But it's important to move past these emotions, especially the anger. Allowing it to fester will have a negative impact on all other relationships, including your friends, family, and coworkers. It is even harmful to your health.
Having anger in your heart can unconsciously affect relationships with friends, family and coworkers. That being said, it is important to take measures to get over anger in order to regain your emotional health.
Here are some suggestions on how to handle your anger after being cheated on.
1. Talking to someone about your feelings is one of the best ways, either with a trained professional, or with a close and discreet friend or family member.
Men are notorious for being bad communicators. They have a tendency to keep things bottled up inside. If that is true of you, it's vital that you allow yourself to open up and let the anger out. It does the most damage when it is kept pent up inside.
By talking to someone, you will be able to clear your head and put your issues into a perspective that you can understand. The people you talk to can give you advice, but that doesn't mean you need to follow all of it. If you listen, you will see the advice you need to take, and apply it to your life.
3. While you are navigating these rough waters it's also important to take care of yourself physically. Eating right and getting the proper exercise will release endorphines that combat depression, as well as elevate your self-esteem and confidence.
4. An act of infidelity is bound to do a number on your feelings of self worth, but it does NOT have to be the end. If the marital relationship matters to you - and to her - together you can move beyond the crisis and have a full and happy life together. However, it takes communication and a mutual commitment in order to do this.
Take the lesson and forget what happened. It is easier said than done, but in time things will get easier. Take measures to forget it one day at a time. Distract yourself by being busy and just move on with your life.
Consider the circumstances. Was she feeling neglected, taken for granted? Was she working in a job that required lots of travel and lonely nights in a hotel room? What could or should be changed to continue with the relationship?
Yes, she cheated, and it's terrible, but it's not the end of the world. The more you prepare yourself to move on, the easier it will be. You will be happier, and your future will be brighter. Perhaps you will build an even better marriage in the future! Then again, moving on entirely might be on the menu.
Having anger in your heart can unconsciously affect relationships with friends, family and coworkers. That being said, it is important to take measures to get over anger in order to regain your emotional health.
Here are some suggestions on how to handle your anger after being cheated on.
1. Talking to someone about your feelings is one of the best ways, either with a trained professional, or with a close and discreet friend or family member.
Men are notorious for being bad communicators. They have a tendency to keep things bottled up inside. If that is true of you, it's vital that you allow yourself to open up and let the anger out. It does the most damage when it is kept pent up inside.
By talking to someone, you will be able to clear your head and put your issues into a perspective that you can understand. The people you talk to can give you advice, but that doesn't mean you need to follow all of it. If you listen, you will see the advice you need to take, and apply it to your life.
3. While you are navigating these rough waters it's also important to take care of yourself physically. Eating right and getting the proper exercise will release endorphines that combat depression, as well as elevate your self-esteem and confidence.
4. An act of infidelity is bound to do a number on your feelings of self worth, but it does NOT have to be the end. If the marital relationship matters to you - and to her - together you can move beyond the crisis and have a full and happy life together. However, it takes communication and a mutual commitment in order to do this.
Take the lesson and forget what happened. It is easier said than done, but in time things will get easier. Take measures to forget it one day at a time. Distract yourself by being busy and just move on with your life.
Consider the circumstances. Was she feeling neglected, taken for granted? Was she working in a job that required lots of travel and lonely nights in a hotel room? What could or should be changed to continue with the relationship?
Yes, she cheated, and it's terrible, but it's not the end of the world. The more you prepare yourself to move on, the easier it will be. You will be happier, and your future will be brighter. Perhaps you will build an even better marriage in the future! Then again, moving on entirely might be on the menu.
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Do you want to know how to deal with infidelity? There are a lot of ways to deal with this kind of problem and you need to be strong if you want this to be effective.
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